How To Be Authentic Without Being an Asshole

Feel Like a Man
While Communicating in a Way She Understands, so She Feels Safe and Open With You

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Why Most Men Are Failing At Trust And How To Flip The Script

  • Stop hiding from fear. Fear is what’s running your show. Learn to spot it for real, so you can stop it cold.

  • Get the exact tools to calm your mind and your body, even in the heat of conflict. (No overthinking. No macho bullshit.)

  • See and heal your survival stories, so you stop wrecking trust without even knowing it.

  • Master the skills to heal, repair, and rebuild trust fast!

  • Communicate like the kind of man women crave and kids admire (no manipulation, just real connection).

  • Get results in days, not months. By completely flipping your approach from the inside out.

Picture it: You walk into your home and your woman feels safe. As such, she’s open and real with you. Your kids look to you for support, not out of fear, but respect. You know, deep down, you can handle what comes…because you have your own back. That future is waiting. Let’s build it.

The Real Reasons Men Don’t Have Lasting Trust (And Why None Of This Is Your Fault)

  • You were taught to hide emotions. Real men don’t get scared, right? Wrong. That makes you brittle, not strong.

  • You protect with money and muscle, not emotional safety. But what your family needs MOST is your presence.

  • You overwork, argue, or defend yourself, all from a place of hidden fear. You can’t even see it.

  • You think it’s her fault she doesn’t feel safe. It isn’t. Safety starts with YOU.

Science backs this up. John Gottman’s research shows 69% of issues in long-term relationships are perpetual. It’s not about ‘fixing’ her. It’s about learning to create emotional safety. It's then everything else falls into place. Here’s what men who’ve done this program say:

I used to shut down and argue. Now my wife actually trusts me, and our house is peaceful.

Jake M.

This isn’t some cheesy self-help fluff. It gave me tools I use every day. I’m a better dad and partner now.

Brian S.

I spent 20 years blaming others. This course made me see how to take real responsibility without shame. Changed my life.

Andre T.

Here’s What You Get With the How to Be Authentic Without Being an Asshole 10-Week, 20-Call Bootcamp

  • 20 Live Calls (Mondays & Wednesdays at 8pm): Deep-dive lessons, live and recorded Q&A, guided practice ($2,000 value)

  • Lifetime Access to All Recordings ($1,000 value)

  • Science-Proven Repair Worksheets: Learn to heal and repair ($397 value)

  • Inside-Out Masculinity Membership: One Month Free bonus support community after program ($97 value)

  • Guided Mind-Body Practice Library ($297 value)

  • Feedback From A Man Who’s Lived This (Priceless)

All for just 4 payments of $397. Not $4,000. Not even $2,500. What would being able to bring safety and healing to your most important relationships, while feeling more like your true self be worth to you?

4 Payment Option: $397/mo

  • Movie of the Mind Exercises
    Advantage: Changes the way you react in real-time
    Benefit: No more blowing up or shutting down at home.

  • Mind & Body Techniques
    Advantage: Actually feel safe in your own skin
    Benefit: Walk with real confidence anywhere.

  • Non-Violent Communication PLUS
    Advantage: Ditch fights and power struggles
    Benefit: Build honest, lasting respect with your woman.

  • Repair Frameworks
    Advantage: Learn exactly what to do after you screw up
    Benefit: Fast, drama-free recovery.

  • Lifetime Re-Take Option
    Advantage: Stay sharp and keep growing
    Benefit: You never fall back into your old patterns.

20 Calls (on Mondays and Wednesdays at 8 pm EST), in the 10-Week Bootcamp, starting Sept. 14th, 2026.

The 20-Call Breakdown:

Call #1 (Week 1): Overview and What to Expect:

A. Masculinity when around Women and Children vs Masculinity around other men.

B. 7 Types of Safety: Our Focus is Emotional

C. How Safety Starts Within and expands out.

D. The 3 Factors Controlling Your Scripts in Relationships:
1. Stories/Beliefs/Rules
2. Survival Strategies/Behaviors/Reactions
3. Soma Sensations/Body/Reality

E. Protection versus Safety

F. The 4-Phase Breakdown of the Program:
Phase #1. Overview, Understanding Yourself Part 1: Taking Charge of Your Stories (6 calls with Integration Call)
Phase #2. Understanding Your Survival Strategies/Soma Sensations

Knowing how to master these two, will create Inner Safety

Phase #3. Basic communication skills: Non-Violent Communication Basics with Understanding the Other Person's Story
Phase #4. Fighting and Repair. Understanding the 5 Conflict Styles and Knowing what you truly want and being able to communicate that in your "style."

G. Homework.

Call #2: Understanding your Shit, Starting with Your Stories

A. Outer to Inner Stories

B. The 3 Types/Levels of Stories: Getting to the Core of them

C. Homework

Call #3 (Week 2): Bringing Safety to Your Stories

A. The Movie of the Mind: Full Framework

B. How to Notice Your Reactions with Survival Strategies

Work on each reaction and survival strategy.

C. Understanding Your Underlying Fear

D. Homework

Call #4: Taking Back the Power of Your Stories

A. Work on One Big Story from Your Survival Strategies

B. Working through the Movie of the Mind with Multiple Parts

C. Homework

Call #12 (Week #6): Communication Skills

Now that you know what shit is yours and when you're acting grom protection instead of safety and knowing how to get back to safety, then it's time to Lead from Inner Trust. From that foundation it's time to expand the skills outwards:

A. The Levels of Judgment and Repair: 4 Levels, 4 Horsemen
B. What Repair Looks like: Most Problems you'll deal with internally first and then expand outwards

C. Giving yourself Grace so you can do it for others.
D. Understanding how all emotions/feelings stem from Stories and Unmet Needs

E. The difference between a Request and a "Nice Demand"
F. Homework

Call #13 (Week 7): Non-Violent Communication (NVC) Basics

A. They say No: What does that mean?
B. They complain and judge…what does that mean?
C. How to handle "No" - How can both needs be met?
D. Avoiding the 4 Horsemen - Overall Plan using Non-Violent Communication
E. Homework

Call #14: Unearthing the Hidden Messages #1

A. What the Person Needs and What they're feeling is from their Story
B. Emotions are how everyone chooses, all day, every day.
C. Difference in wanting versus Needs
D. Homework

Call #15 (Week 8): Unearthing the Hidden Messages #2

A. Complaints: Bad Strategies to get what you want
B. Practice hearing a complaint and hearing the underlying needs and embedded request
C. Homework

Call #16:

Integration Call: Ensuring you're able to fully understand the basics of healthy communication

Call #17 (Week 9): Conflicts and Repair

A. 5 Types of Conflict Styles: Knowing Yours and respecting it

B. Knowing your partner's and understanding

C. Understanding Perpetual Problems make up 69% of all problems in long-term relationships.
D. Homework

Call #18: Repair: Depends on Level of Breakdown

A. How Trust deteriorates according to science
B. Repair early and Repair often
C. Homework

Call #19 (Final Week): Repair Details

A. When to let relationships go and how change works..

B. Useable Frameworks for repair and for building the relationship you want: Using Gottman Worksheets

C. Homework

Call #20: Wrapping up and Continuing

A. The Inside-Out Masculinity Ongoing Membership
B. Must continue, even when it's not convenient: Consistency is key

Learning the skills is one thing. Putting them into practice when they truly matter is the essential aspect.

How to Be Authentic Without Being an Asshole Creator:
Damien Leyva

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This is the program I wish I had when I was 25 or 30 or 35, or fuck, even 40. It would've saved me so much heartache. It would've saved me so much screaming. So much drama…for fucking nothing.

It would've saved the women I cared about from so much of my bullshit. And it would've saved some of the relationships that ended because I was too weak to know how to handle my own shit…and therefore took it out on her.

This program is for any man:
- Who has struggled in a relationship with their woman.

- If something is missing.

- If something feels off.

- If your relationships start strong, and then something happens.

- If you're not sure what has happened, but your relationships keep ending, and you're not sure why.

This is why I built this program.

I come at this, from a place not as an expert, but as someone who doesn't quit. I've fucked up and tried to improve, then fucked up some more, and going and growing with every fuck up. Now I'm at the point that nearly any relationship feels fucking easy.

I know my standards, what I want, and how to create the relationship dynamics that are fun and fulfilling. Where the relationship feels fucking amazing. I'd like to teach you how those skills, so your relationship becomes easy.
This will require work, but it's doable, now. This program is how.

Hope to see you in the program…Cheers!
Damien Leyva

4-Payment Option

What's it worth to you to have the Women and Children in your life, feel Safe around you, Trust you and Respect you?

Knowing you're not performing, but this is inherently who you are, because you feel safe within yourself, not letting your fears control you. You then take the actions making you trustworthy within, and then being able to do things, live by standards that you respect.

If this program can keep you from losing your peace, family, and self-respect, what would that be worth to you? I spent years and thousands of dollars learning these lessons the hard way. You don’t have to. For $1497, that's a drop in the bucket compared to a life full of regret…or a home full of respect and love.

Spots are limited. This bootcamp runs live and enrollment closes September 14th.

Join now. If you’re not sure? You have 30 days to try it risk-free. If it doesn’t work for you, you get your money back. I might have questions though, but only so I know what wasn't working for you.

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Click below. Become The Trustworthy Man now.

4 Payment Option: $377/mo
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